THE PSYCHO QUESTION - How to manage a romantic relationship at work?

You may have already succumbed to the gaze of a charming colleague, to the point of wondering if he or she could not also share your life.

Indeed, it is not uncommon for great stories to be born in business.

But reconciling his love life with his professional life is not always easy.

The sex therapist Catherine Blanc spoke about it on Monday, in the program Sans rendez-vous on Europe 1.

"To meet people, you have to have time to meet them. It's not when you gallop in the street, when you are in charge of your shopping or when you go to pick up the children at school that you meet. . Workplaces are places where there is time, where there is exchange and where, along the way, we will perhaps slip slightly on emotional things. When we are in social life in general , at work in particular, we also need to please. This is not to please for sexual purposes, but because we need to exist in the eyes of the other. So by dint of wanting to please, we please.

But don't we say "no zob in job"?

Pure sexual relations may be best to avoid with co-workers, right?

They should be avoided because of course that complicates things.

There are power relationships in the working relationship, in romantic relationships as well, but they may not be the same.

Suddenly it comes to mingle, get tangled and make authority a little complicated when there is a need for an authority of one over the other in the professional context.

But in love life, a priori, this is not the case.

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It is not because we cannot mix things up.

Otherwise, we'd end up a bit like college where we say, 'you're my best friend, I can't date you because we can't mix it up.'

But we can have a lot of affection for someone and that turns into love.

It is really the problematic of the hierarchy and the need to have a domination of one over the other, in the noble sense of the term, in the professional context.

As soon as there are emotional, romantic and sexual issues, it can become considerably complicated.

But even the blows of one night can be complicated, since the next day we meet up with our colleague at the workplace.

But we have the right to fall in love at the workplace.

You have to find out if the person is already in a relationship or not, right?

I think people are very knowledgeable.

But knowing the status of the other is also an assurance of being able to protect oneself, that one will be able to separate.

Except that you can fall into your own trap, which is all of a sudden falling in love.

What complicates things is that we work together.

Everyone is perhaps engaged, which considerably complicates things and does not make much availability for work.

Spending the day with your companion, then meeting up in the evening, maybe sometimes complicated, right?

We may need a break, during the day, to better meet at night.

It's true that to the extent that you are with each other all the time, you actually end up being in a wonderful fusion.

In the professional context, it is a little parasitic by all this environment.

But take the example of artisans, restaurateurs or liberal professions who will therefore share their professional concerns and their love concerns.

It's obviously great to be able to share so many things: intimacy, feelings, sexuality, professional interests.

But of course, little by little, there is a lack of distance between the two.

However, this distance is necessary because it is what makes us move towards the other.

So if the other is still there and we are talking about a cash flow problem in the evening, it gets a bit heavy.

It is true that if everyone has won their victories or, on the contrary, experienced their defeats on the outside, then we can take comfort.

It creates an intimacy that is a little less cluttered with our real professional.

How do you approach a person at their workplace: in the middle of the open space, or by inviting them for a coffee?

This is a curious question.

When we approach people, we approach them each with our own personal sensitivity.

So choose the place that is most convenient for you and not the one where you get toast in front of your colleagues! "