“I want to quit mommy!” Screams spread on the go, April 28 14:51
The movie "Are you sure you want to quit mom?" Released at the end of February.
This is a documentary film that depicts the everyday life of a mother (and her family), who sometimes struggles to raise children but sometimes feels loneliness and the difficulty of raising children and wants to quit mom.
In an article published in February on NewsUp, I shared the thoughts of the production team and the family that appeared in the movie (there is a link at the end of the sentence).
After that, the infection with the new coronavirus spread and it became difficult to show it at the movie theater, but the production team told them "I want to stay with my child and home every day" and "I really want to stop mommy now!" There was a call for a screening, and the online screening was suddenly decided.
As I continued to refrain from going out, I once again interviewed the family to find out the hints for spending time with compassion for each other. (Momoko Ariyoshi, Reporter, Network News Department)
What is the movie "Can I stop Mommy?"
A mother who is repeatedly awakened in the middle of the night when her baby crys.
Husband keeps sleeping without noticing it.
The mother who greeted the morning without being able to sleep comfortably changed her child, made her eat rice, wiped off the rice and drink spilled by the child, and when he took a little eye, the child was holding his hand in the toilet .... After a busy day, the night comes again.
It is a movie that depicts a mother and her family who experienced postpartum depression, feeling loneliness and difficulty in raising their children, and "There is" while raising children.
Online signing is decided by the signature
It was screened at movie theaters in Tokyo from the end of February to March, but after that it was canceled due to the spread of the new coronavirus.
However, on the movie homepage, there were many voices who wanted to watch the movie because the school was closed and the students went out of school.
"I'm just going home with my kids right now and getting frustrated every day ... I keep yelling at my kids. I'm in such a situation and I think there are many moms like this. I feel like this movie will save them.
Masu. "The school is closed. I work full-time in the hospital. But even if my husband stays at home working, housework and child care will not change for each other. The burden on the mother will increase."
"During labor Even at that time, my dad can not intervene at the hospital so that the infection will not spread. I am afraid that postpartum depression will increase. ”
“ When I am online, my husband can see me at home. I strongly hope it will be a good opportunity to get a feel for it. ''
The number of signatures sent to the homepage for the screening reached about 1400, and it was urgently shown online until the end of May for a fee.
Mom watching the online show
Sawako Shizawa, who is raising two children aged 5 and 2 is the one who signed for wanting to see this movie.
Shizawa-san felt the most "want to quit mom" so far from the birth of his second child until his older child entered kindergarten.
However, due to the influence of the new coronavirus, the older child's kindergarten was closed, but her husband was forced to work and work as usual.
It is said that the days of one child alone looking at two children from morning till night continued, and it became more difficult to feel again.
Sawako Shizawa:
"Because I've been together all the time, there are many things I can't do if I'm just cute. I have no time to relax and I'm too sluggish to sit all day long, so I can't help but feel full of my feelings. Then, I get too angry and frustrated by the little mischief and failures of the children ... until now I have to go out and talk to people to keep my mentality, `` I was trying hard because I took children on the train to go out and change my mood, so I think that being unable to go out and not being able to connect with people around me is a very difficult situation for raising children. ''
When Mr. Shizawa saw the title "Can I stop mommy ??", I felt that it was similar to my feelings after having a second child.
My husband was busy with work and couldn't depend on his parents' home, so he was holding everything by himself.
Knowing that the online screening had begun, he spent a little time after putting the children to sleep and stared at the movie, crying.
Mr. Shizawa:
“I was able to really empathize with what the moms in the movie said, and I felt it myself, but it was hard for people around me to say something that wasn't the only thing for me. I felt that I wasn't there and was saved a lot. It seems that I was affirmed that I was doing my best and I was satisfied, so I think that the children are kinda kind to that. "
The family of the performers
The family of Satomi and Kay (pseudonym) appearing in the movie.
When I (reporter) was interviewed in February, I got the impression that the couple are enjoying caring for their two children while caring for each other.
Satomi, when she was a baby, couldn't sleep day or night, and couldn't even rest.
My husband, Kei, was supportive of housework and childcare, but the feelings of the two sometimes passed each other, and I could not communicate well for days.
Meanwhile, Satomi, who is as serious as the other person, thinks "I want to be a better mama" and "I want my husband to go to work with peace of mind", and the more I try, the harder it gets, and often I have an "anxiety attack". Was becoming.
After that, it was the appearance in the movie that Satomi and Kay were able to deepen their understanding of each other and overcome the problems.
Satomi wants to help her mothers who have similar feelings by telling her experiences, and has agreed to have a camera at home.
During the interview, Satomi realized that she couldn't rely on her husband, and Kay didn't have time to ask her what she wanted.
Since then, they have shared the idea that “married couples have the same responsibility,” and are working together to raise children.
What are the effects of the new coronavirus?
Now, many families are forced to put up with school closures, nursery school closures, and refraining from going out. I used the video call app to get an interview about how Satomi and Kay's family are spending.
The elementary school where the couple's upper child goes is closed. The younger children's kindergarten asked them to refrain from going to school as much as possible, and the children lost their place of destination.
It seems that Satomi-san saved her job, depended on her parents' home, and Kei-san, who usually goes to work, sometimes went to work with her child.
Satomi doesn't want to quit mom like she used to, even if she spends more time with her children at home, and makes udon noodles from flour, snacks, playing and having fun together. He seems to have spent it.
Mr. Satomi
"It might have been really hard for me at that time, but I felt that it was so fun to have a child at home now. I felt a change. After all, I have to do it or I have to do this." Well, I was less likely to drive myself, and I was also admitted that I could not do what I could not do.I used to feel guilty if I depended on my husband before, but I feel happy to rely on it now. And now I can tell my children what they say. "
And in the current situation where I have to refrain from going out, I hope that the message contained in the movie will reach the parents who are suffering.
Mr. Satomi
"I thought" Ah "when I saw the news that my family would spend more time at home and worried about the increase in DV and abuse due to going out and so on. I want people like that to see the movie, When I see a mom holding a baby in her braid, I think she's very anxious, and I think she's doing her best. When I see him, I feel encouraged and I think I'll do my best, so it's a word that appears in the movie, but I want to tell you, "Not one. I'm not one."
Kei:
"I hear that the fact that there are more husbands at home increases the number, but I think this movie will be an opportunity to talk about the family. We will talk to each other through filming the movie. There are places where I was inspired to do so, but I think it would be nice if it was that kind of opportunity. ''
Reconsider the importance of family
"It's not just me. Everyone's doing their best to be a mom." It
might be a little easier just to think.
As the threat of the new coronavirus continues, it becomes difficult to stay home and get stressed, so it would be great if everyone could reconsider the family and the importance of raising children. ing.