Recently, many students have been at home. While parents play the role of parents, they must also assume the responsibility of "temporary teachers". Many parents of office workers are both under pressure to work and accompany and urge their children to study.

Last week, a survey conducted by the China Youth Daily's Social Survey Center and a questionnaire website (wenjuan.com) on 2,757 parents of elementary and middle school students showed that during this time, both work and children's education were considered. Parents of elementary school students are particularly struggling. In order to balance, 54.5% of the parents surveyed will plan the next day in advance. Speaking of the gains during this period, 74.6% of the parents surveyed said they have learned more about their children's daily learning.

Taking care of work and children's education, 72.7% of parents surveyed said they struggled

Freelancer Liang Qiu (pseudonym) has two primary school sons. Recently, she spent at least 5 hours a day supervising two children's studies. "Children are still young and have to accompany them to take online lessons. Some classes also need to record videos, and they have to be tutored after class. Once I told my younger brother about a new knowledge point for more than two hours, he still ca n’t, I have to Collapsed. I feel very nervous recently every day. "

Xiao Yajing (pseudonym) is from Changzhou, Jiangsu, and her son is also in elementary school. She introduced to reporters that her children ’s physical fitness class, art class, etc., need to take videos and edit videos every day to “punch in”. In addition to coaching and preparing lessons, Xiao Yajing got Spend 4 hours on your child's studies.

How long do parents spend with their children every day? The survey shows that 5.0% is less than 1 hour, 30.6% is 1-2 hours, 43.1% is 2-3 hours, 15.1% is 3-5 hours, and 6.2% is more than 5 hours.

Liang Qiu said that her two children were poor in math and poor in English and Chinese, which made her tutoring more difficult. "To take care of the children's learning in different grades and different disciplines, we must do more preparation. You still have to switch the way you coach. "

Liang Qiu said that at present, she is dealing with things in a pinch. She often sleeps at night, and she will continue to work and connect with customers. "I have recently noticed discomfort in my lumbar spine and my throat is dry and sore."

The daughter of Zhou Yuan (pseudonym), a citizen of Tangshan, Hebei, is in junior high school. Because of her busy work and supervising her children's studies, Zhou Yuan felt very strenuous. "The child's dad is busier than me, and the child's learning is basically my responsibility. For example, if the child usually does math and physics problems, I have to tell them. Many knowledge points, in order to give her more comprehensive information Will check a lot of information. "

The survey showed that taking care of work and children's education, 72.7% of the parents surveyed said they were struggling, of which 16.8% felt very struggling. Interaction analysis showed that parents of primary school students were particularly struggling (73.4%), followed by junior high school students (70.7%).

Shi Longwei, associate professor of the Department of Education of Southwest University, said that the sudden epidemic disrupted the normal order of people's lives and made teachers, students, and parents feel uncomfortable. This not only tested the teachers 'information technology literacy, but also tested the students' self-discipline and autonomous learning. Ability also puts the test of parents' balance between workplace and children's education.

Shi Longwei believes that as parents, they must learn to deal with these temporary situations with peace, optimism, and patience, so that children can maintain a healthy and upward mentality in special times. "If parents keep complaining in front of their children, the children will also have negative emotions and even resist learning."

54.5% of parents interviewed will plan the next day in advance

Liang Qiu mobilized her husband to tutor the children to study with himself, and felt a lot easier. "For example, when I teach homework to my younger brother, my dad takes my older brother to watch fine arts and English videos. I also reported the child to online tutoring classes, which can realize teacher-student interaction, online tutoring, and answer questions in a timely manner. I am quite relieved and the pressure is reduced. A lot ".

During the epidemic, Zhou Yuan and her parents lived together. "Now in our family, two elderly people are mainly responsible for three meals a day, so that I can have more time to coach the children to learn. I am also developing the children's independent learning ability. Now she I can arrange my own learning tasks, I am responsible for making suggestions to help her adjust. "

Xiao Yajing said that she now has to look at what the child learned the next day every night, and she will mark and find information about the children's questionable and important knowledge points. "Sometimes I feel too tired, just tell everyone in the parent group that sharing experience can get a lot of comfort."

Shi Longwei believes that it is necessary for parents to maintain effective communication with all parties during this time. "First, parents are not professionals in learning guidance. They must report back to the teacher on their children's learning and communicate with the teacher on their own confusion to get the correct way to guide the child. Second, take the initiative to communicate with other parents and learn from each other. Third, take the initiative to communicate with the child, fully understand the child's inner thoughts, and guide the child correctly. "

Shi Longwei said that through this series of communications, parents can timely understand and solve their children's problems in learning, life, psychology and other aspects, find better education methods, be good companions and guides for their children, and promote their healthy and happy growth. .

The survey shows that in order to better balance the child's study and work, 54.5% of the parents surveyed will plan the next day in advance, and 52.8% of the parents will take the time to check the information and prepare in advance. Other methods include: developing a "schedule" for children (47.1%), developing children's autonomy (44.4%), and helping elders (36.4%).

74.6% of parents surveyed have recently learned more about their children's daily learning

"Taking care of my children's homework during this time has made me even more aware of the difficulty of the teacher. I'm tired of bringing two dolls. The teachers have to deal with dozens of children in the class every day with different learning progress. Qiu said that recently she concentrated on practicing oral English and watching English videos with her children, and her oral English has also been exercised. "In addition, I have not been able to accept poor results in some subjects before, but I have recently turned aside. I accept that there are differences in children. As a parent, you must be calm and try your best."

Xiao Yajing believes that the epidemic "moved" the classroom to her home, giving her a rare opportunity to learn about her son's daily learning situation up close. "I can see his bad study habits in time, such as biting a pen, sitting incorrectly, etc., in a timely manner. Help him correct. Moreover, boys are generally more playful, and I took this opportunity to tell him the importance of using the Internet reasonably to help him achieve healthy and moderate Internet access. "

"Through this period of time to teach the child homework, I learned her weaknesses in learning, and then I will provide her with targeted counseling." Zhou Yuan said that she would intentionally train her children to plan and monitor themselves. Ability, the effect is very good, "I told her that learning is more test of self-control. Even now I go to work in the unit, I am assured that the child will study carefully at home."

What have parents learned from spending time with their children? In the survey, 74.6% of the parents said that they have learned more about their children ’s daily learning recently, 58.5% of the parents feel that they have more opportunities to guide their children to use the Internet correctly, and 54.4% of the parents try to do with their children Effective and equal communication, 47.9% of the parents surveyed felt that they had the opportunity to develop their children's self-management skills.

Shi Longwei said that during the home epidemic prevention period, many parents get along with their children throughout the day and comprehensively counsel their children's homework and learning, which is conducive to enhancing parent-child communication. Parents can more systematically understand their children's learning attitude, learning ability, learning methods, etc. They can focus on the children's learning consciousness, interest, imagination, logical thinking ability, self-solving ability, etc., and carry out targeted Cultivation, "these are the abilities that children in primary and secondary schools need to cultivate and develop, and are the cornerstones of their future learning and development."

Among the parents interviewed, 39.5% of children were in elementary school 1-3, 41.6% were in elementary school 4-6, 14.4% were in junior high school, and 4.5% were in high school. Respondents living in first-tier cities accounted for 28.1%, second-tier cities accounted for 47.7%, third- and fourth-tier cities accounted for 19.3%, towns or counties accounted for 4.4%, and rural villages accounted for 0.5%.

China Youth Daily · China Youth Daily reporter Du Yuanchun Source: China Youth Daily