>> Is it "normal" not to be interested in sex? In the program "Sans Rendez-Vous", on Europe 1, a listener worries about not talking about sexuality like other young people of his age, because that does not interest him. According to sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc, it happens that sexuality is not the primary concern of a young person. She offers him several avenues of reflection.
The question of Alix, 20 years old
Compared to other boys my age, I don't talk about sex and don't really think about it. I have the impression that it does not connect me more than that: am I normal?
Catherine Blanc's response
"Of course, one expects that at 20 he will be particularly preoccupied or even obsessed with sexuality. But sometimes it is not the main concern, for many reasons.
We cannot know from a hormonal point of view where the listener is in its development, because even if at 20 years everything has developed well, we do not all have the same speeds, the same production of testosterone ... There are things that can be different, at different rhythms: let time go by, without immediately thinking of a pathology.
If there is no delay in hormonal development, we can be inhibited from the point of view of sexuality because it is complicated, because we do not know what to do with it and there are other more interesting things. Some have a pleasure to discover the world, to develop their intelligence, their capacities, to be an engineer ... This can be a very intellectual investment, which consists in transferring the sexual field to other fields more easily controllable or exciting.
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This can also raise the question of the difficulty compared to other boys to find themselves in this same group: there may be a gender question that arises, a concern, a fluctuation in the perception of oneself and of the group in which we recognize ourselves.
Finally, it could be a boy with an above-average IQ, who has a brain that needs to be constantly fed, and who, in the midst of young men of his age who are in a ease and a bodily and emotional tranquility, feels in difficulty on these two fields because he prefers the adult world and the exchange with adults. However, these adults are not objects of desire for him. Suddenly it shifts his accessibility to sexuality.
This sexuality may be able to flourish one day through, not the "pure sexual", but a meeting with a person in intellectual adequacy, of view of the world, who will suddenly follow logic."