Wives tell their experiences .. This is what the weirdness of our husbands did

Larissa Slaei - Beirut

Will the couple remain close despite the distance? Some maintain love, even if they have thousands of miles apart, as a result of their association with a different workplace. How do these relationships persist? What helps her success?

With the presence of modern technologies, especially social media, maintaining communication has become easy, and this poses a challenge when the couple does not see each other for long periods. What are the negative effects of the husband's exile on the wife and family? Can it be passed successfully and without problems?

Stories from the heart of the experience, including those who lived in years of alienation in search of material security and lost love and warmth, and some of them maintained the marital relationship without being affected by factors of alienation, and they were in a state of longing and longing for each other and what they meet until love renewed between them.

Be heart and mind when meeting
Maggie Allam Yaghi is a newlywed journalist who knows that her husband is working outside the country, but she is convinced that there are many benefits to this dimension for their future together.

She does not deny that she suffered a lot during the first period, and she is a bride on her own at home, and she feels lonely despite the presence of social media that greatly facilitated the closeness of people despite the long distances, and communication with her husband became available at all times, this matter reduced the impact of the alienation and its difficulty on both of them.

Her husband Shadi is her support and takes priority in her life, and their relationship is strong and does not prevail over coldness or estrangement, because at the meeting they avoid talking about bad matters until they enjoy the little time spent together.

Maggie assures Al-Jazeera Net that "we live in a strong state of love, so we will be both a heart and a heart when meeting. The meeting after absence will be warm, with a period of convalescence, happiness and reunification, in addition to respect, longing, love and understanding. We are at the top of the happiness of the marital relationship."

18 years of suffering
Svetlana Tarraf (married for 18 years) suffers from the estranged husband, and she tells Al Jazeera Net, "My children are old, and they have finished the important age stages in the absence of their father. I suffered a lot in his absence, and the weight of responsibility."

She is the mother inside the house, and the father who provides household supplies, and takes the children to the hospital when they get sick. She is the one watching over them, and continues their studies. They also investigate their relationships with their friends, and monitor their behavior.

"It is true that my husband calls us every day, but this is not enough. The first period, the children and I were anxious and eager to wait for him and we were waiting impatiently for his return, but with the passage of years we adapted to life on our own and we got used to his absence."

Svetlana - who lives in material affluence - confirms that what is missing and her children is the presence of the father and the husband next to them, stressing that when visiting her husband, arguments abound and tension between them because of his distance from her and their children.

She sadly continues that at the same time the two attach special importance to their relationship even though the dimension threatens this relationship because they are linked to a deep love and they both know that they must sacrifice for the future of their children.

The role of the absent father
The social psychology consultant, Laila Jumaa, says that the father’s absence for various reasons has a negative impact on the lives of the children, and it is the mother’s duty to take care of her children, and to convey them with good pictures of their father, even if there are differences or problems between them and him, and she must clarify and justify the reasons for absence Father, always remind them of it.

She drew attention to the fact that the social situation and the active presence of parents in the lives of their children have a very big impact on the progress of children in the different stages of education, as the father remains through these stages a friend and support.

And the father who returns to his home after a long travel and absence - as you say - must do his best to strive for his children to forget his absence, and to use his presence to compensate them for what they lost during his absence.

Psychology: The dimension is estrangement
On the psychological side, the consultant, Leila Jumaa, says, "The dimension is a drought, because the absence of the father, for any reason, weakens the emotional, patriarchal aspect of the children, which may lead to a lack of affection and love between the father and his children, and thus the occurrence of psychological disturbances among children, because they lack the role and role model And power at home. "

She adds that bearing the mother the greatest burden of the responsibility of raising children, in all aspects, may lead to shortening in this aspect, due to the absence of the father's role, which is indispensable in achieving family stability within the family.

And because it may be difficult for husbands to share their feelings, emotions, and details of the little lives they go through every day, as if they live in the same home. Therefore, the important issues are not discussed, which leads to postponement and the accumulation of debates and negative feelings, and thus frigidity in the relationship, according to the advisory.