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It happens every month in all fertile women and anywhere in the world, and yet, talking about menstruation is still, for now, complicated. Shame sometimes in them, disgust in them sometimes and even both sensations in both genders. Imagine now the mixture of talking about menstruation during sex; Taboo more taboo, the speech becomes unusual. One of the most common myths in this duo is that, during the days of the period, it is better not to make love or practice other types of erotic that include genital play. Big mistake.

For now, because there is a circumstance that, for many, practicing what sexologists call "penetrative sex" - in which there is a penis, or toys or hands are used - is "joyful" because "paradoxically, we are more receptive ». It is explained by Irene Aterido, sexologist specialized in menstrual matters, so much so that her Instagram account is called Meduelelaregla: «At the time of the period the uterine cervix - portion of the uterus whose opening allows the blood to flow out - is more open and movement can encourage exacerbated sensitivity ».

That is why Aterido goes on to say that "in the face of the cultural myth that we do not feel like reality, it is another good." It is not something, of course, that happens to all women, nor do all men go crazy for making love with their wife when she has her cycle, that there are, of course. Socially, both they and they often express the sensations that were mentioned before and that are marked by modesty.

That is why, when Swedish Anna Dahlqvist is asked what men still have to learn about the rule, she responds: “Basically, the same as women. Menstruation is part of society and should be treated as knowledge of one more biological function , which should be instructed both boys and girls. And given the effect it has for those who menstruate not seeing their rights respected, it is important to learn about it ».

It refers to what is detailed and delicately explained in the book he has just published in Spain, It is only blood, breaking the taboo of menstruation (Navona editorial), where he breaks down the stories of so many women - «two billion people menstruate in the world »- that they are forced to fight against many of the stigmas that exist around the rule, such as when it is better not to practice sex.

"It is a myth. There is no reason to believe that there can be no sex, provided it is done in a hygienic and healthy way, ”he says. «Everything depends on what you want. If you start by being tolerant towards the period itself, we can also talk about sex, and reflect on a fear that, in the end, both men and women have when there really is no reason for it.

It is well explained by psychologist and sexologist Laura Morán , who recently published the Orgas essay (myths) with the publishing house Next Door: «Everything is related. As the rule still has this halo of dirt is something that does not like to talk or tends to hide. Everything that disgusts us, fear or shame is not spoken and, as it is not spoken, there are no answers and there is no information. Instead of understanding it as a natural physiological process, such as breathing, it hides.

And as it hides, the last thing that occurs to us is that it can live with the most intimate, with that which sometimes already puts us on the edge of ourselves, whether for pleasure or for modesty. "It's a body fluid," continues Morán, for whom the only maxim at the time of sex during the period is "cleaning." «The only problem would have to do with bodily discomfort, rather than blood. If the couple is apprehensive, obviously it will not be the best time, but if the blood does not bother you, there is no problem ».

It is not bad for your health and it is also not true that pregnancy cannot occur; It can happen because women are fertile, to a greater or lesser extent, 365 days a year. «It should be seen as a cold. If you feel like it, go ahead, and if not, well no. There are even, according to Aterido, people who practice "oral sex during menstrual time", for which the sexologist recommends, use latex quadrants that serve as protectors "to prevent germs from entering the vagina and also to protect us from Any sexually transmitted disease. And it provides a fact: «Sometimes there will be no blood because between 80 and 170 milliliters are expelled during the days of the period».

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