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Everyone does not assume his fantasies. Monday, at the microphone of Melanie Gomez, in Sans Rendez-Vous , the health show of Europe 1, the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc strives to reassure an auditor disturbed by his desire to be dominated.
Thierry's question
"I do not know why, I feed the fantasy of sexual relations in which I would be subjected to the other.I feel a delicious fear at the idea of this abandonment.What do you think?
Catherine Blanc's answer
"Generally speaking, all fantasies are divided into two types: domination and submission: one can be very creative, but the bottom of our fantasies is on one side or the other.
In the case of Thierry, his fantasy refers to the first relationship we have with the other, namely with our mother. We are then in the total dependence which will make our happiness or our misfortune according to its capacity to answer us or to frustrate us. Finally, this fantasy is a search for this first relationship, which obviously does not mean that he wants to make love with his mother.
There is a cliché that men must be dominant in the feminine. And this simply because there is always a cause for concern that the woman would be an ogress in the relationship. Again, it comes from the mother, since our first character is the mother. There is always anxiety, especially for boys, to be "eaten", absorbed, and therefore a need to express domination.
In all our ways of working with each other, we can play this submission, to be pampered, papouiller, like an infant. And it is not because we play a little bit that we are less adult, or less sexually legitimate. We can always talk to each other and wonder if we can have fun at ... This can go as far as staging big domination. But a fellatio can be a moment of submission as domination, depending on how one sees the position itself. "