Maria Hesse Sevillian illustrator and writer (1982). He wrote and drew with surprising success the biographies of Frida Kahlo and David Bowie. His new work, The Pleasure (Lumen), is half memory, half sex education book.

Think of your male friends, the most polite and nice, they sure are. What do you find most difficult to understand about female sexuality? It is that, in reality, it is not a matter of being male or female or of being educated or not. The problem is a base that is wrong and that we all share. The question of no, for example, that is so tricky. Or phrases like "I fucked this aunt yesterday." How? In any case, yesterday you fucked the two, equally. Or "I pretend an orgasm and so we leave it." We have heard that all a thousand times. There is also the problem of ignorance of the body. And I say that, I've been lucky. The men with whom I have related always cared about my pleasure, more or less awkwardly. 10 years ago, I listened to friends talking and thought they had their sex lives with the same freedom and carefreeness as boys. But I read him and it seems not. Well, it wasn't like that. Masturbation for example: for boys it was a sin, but for girls it was not even considered. Or the dilemma between being a slut or a narrow one. Yes. But I think that happened in high school. Already, in the career and at work, no. How not? It is still heard. Maybe not in your circle, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. The clitoris does not appear in science books, many men still think that orgasm depends only on penetration ... Occasional sex, for example, is screwed. I love to see the other person who gets excited. Why is it not always reciprocal? Or ask ... It is very easy to say "Do you like it?" And that is one thing that can only be heard now. Let's see, I know that sexual pressure exists for everyone, but for women there is always an extra. I suspect that men talk about sex with friends less than women. I also believe it and it seems to me that this is a problem you have. And if we talk, it is in the abstract. Nobody tells you if such a girlfriend pleases or bores you. Nor do we dedicate ourselves to comparing measurements, huh? That obsession is yours. It's another thing, is to learn from each other. Masturbation, for example, is discovered by talking with friends. And it would be great if men spoke among you. Of sex, of feelings, of fears, of a lot of things that you don't talk about ... And also of the times that it's not going well because there is no connection, but without losing respect, because we don't lose it. Well, nobody is a saint all the time. In the book there is a mother who talks to her daughter and says: “Hey, remember that you have to like you too.” Mothers only told you: “Hey, no you get pregnant ». To me, my mother caught me a prescription of the contraceptive pill and said: "How do you know if it is the love of your life?" I should have put on a monument to find my life with the recipe, but the fear of pregnancy was an obsession that we fell to the girls. Why? If the brown falls, the two should fall the same. Instead, the boys are given condoms and come on, go ahead. Now, the desire for sex is a yearning for intimacy rather than pleasure, because we control it more or less for pleasure. It depends. Because that is also taking pleasure for granted, which is something that is not so true for many women. THE LAST QUESTION: In the years of the initiation, I thought that the girls had it better because they were the ones they chose We decided but we had to wait. We could not take the initiative, we had to wait until they conquered us. And many women continue with that self-censorship.

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