YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES
Virginie, 45, entered the world of libertinage in her mid-twenties. After a break of several years, especially because of a first marriage, she has returned to his inclinations, this time alongside his new companion. At the microphone of Olivier Delacroix, on Europe 1, she explains how she manages to reconcile sexual freedom and the life of a couple.
"It's my profession, that made me move in the south of France, in Cap d'Agde, which made me discover this environment." The first years, it was a little groping, it was a discovery and, one thing or another, the desire to seduce and the desire to be seduced made me really interested.
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In this environment, there is not necessarily a manual of the little libertine. Everyone sees libertinage in his sauce. As in all walks of life, there are very good people and less well off people. I was in a very open environment, where people talk a lot, where dialogue is paramount. There is no judgment vis-à-vis the other.
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Virginie married and had children, which led her to put her taste for libertinism aside. Once divorced, she became a couple with another woman, and gradually returned to her old life ...
Life doing, I cut after a few years with this medium. [...] My husband was not necessarily very open about it, and then I became interested in something else. [...] I am a person who has always loved to be seduced and seduced. Today, in hindsight, I think unconsciously it's something I missed for several years.
From the beginning, we talked with my partner about the fact that I had been to a bit of this milieu. She had some similar desires. As luck would have it, we went out with friends to a club, not far from home. [...] I would say that it's a bit like cycling, we go back on it and we did not forget how to pedal. [...]
Plunging in, we said to ourselves: 'But of course! That's what we missed during all those years. ' [...] I made discover this environment to my companion. [Since], it's going very well. There is not necessarily a miracle recipe, if not the dialogue. We met great people. Moreover, all our current friendly circle is essentially libertines.
To guarantee the unity of their relationship, Virginie and her partner have set themselves some rules ...
In order to be able to libertine [sic ] in perfect cohesion within your couple, you have to know how to balance things between pleasure, seduction and feelings. The feelings, it is necessary to proscribe them and to take libertinism for a game. Therefore, the rules are imperative. In a couple, if you do not put rules or they are not respected, it opens the door to anything and everything. Sometimes we can very well play very dangerous games. [...]
We have three rules. The first: 'never one without the other'. That is to say that no meeting is done independently of the other. Either we are both taken, or we are left out of the way. The second rule: 'always and only in club'. There is no private party for questions of neutrality of the place. And the third rule is that with us 'nothing is ever won'. Personally, I am much more interested in seduction than in the sexual act itself. It is not necessarily because we are going to meet a couple or someone that something is going to happen. It's the feeling, the relationship, the humor that will make it possible, perhaps, to consider going further. "
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