Prison mother and "temporary" grandmother: 9-year-old boy becomes a "black household"

　　Prison mother and "temporary" grandmother: 9-year-old boy becomes a "black household", school problems to be solved

　　"Grandma, when can I go to school?" This is the 9-year-old Zhang Tianbei (pseudonym) most frequently asked in the past two years.

Zhang Guizhen coaxed him every time, "It's coming, it's coming." When Tianbei pouted and complained, "Others can go to school, but I can't", the 66-year-old Zhang Guizhen could only wipe his tears secretly.

　　In 2014, Zhang Tianbei's biological mother Li Ting (pseudonym) was detained by the Shuishiying Police Station in Lushunkou District, Dalian City for drug trafficking. At that time, the two-year-old child was left unattended. Li Ting proposed to be raised by Zhang Guizhen, the mother of her boyfriend at the time.

Zhang Guizhen named this unrelated child "Tianbei", which means "a treasure raised by God" and gave her own surname.

　　More than 6 years have passed, from a baby waiting to be fed, to a staggering walk, whispering "grandma, grandma help", then to running around the sky, Zhang Tianbei has grown up.

At six o'clock every morning, a small hand reached into Zhang Guizhen's bed on time, shaking her up.

　　Troubles follow.

As the child left by the former girlfriend of Zhang Guizhen's son, Tianbei's identity is embarrassing, and there are constant quarrels at home. Because of the mystery of his biological father and the uncooperation of his biological mother, Tianbei could not go to the hukou and became a "black household". He has not been able to go to school yet.

This is also an urgent need to trouble the "temporary" grandchildren.

　　At the beginning of this year, things took a turn for the better.

On January 4, the Lushun Branch of the Dalian Public Security Bureau contacted Li Ting. She promised to help Tianbei settle down after the epidemic.

But after settled down, where should Tianbei go is still a problem that plagues Zhang Guizhen.

"This is my home"

　　In the early morning of January 17, a quarrel broke out in Zhang Guizhen's family. The cause was still "Where are you going to send Zhang Tianbei?" For this matter, Zhang's family had to make a fuss every few months.

　　His son Zhang Youming (a pseudonym) frowned, pacing and smoking anxiously. He complained about Zhang Guizhen, "Mom, do you know it, for this child, I can't lift my head all these years." Zhang Guizhen buried himself in the dishes and sighed. Say, "It's all on me, all on my soft heart."

　　9-year-old Zhang Tianbei hid in the bedroom and played in the car. The sound from outside came in with thorns, but he didn't seem to hear it.

　　A black car drove into the courtyard. It was Zhang Guolin (a pseudonym), Zhang Guizhen's ex-husband.

The two divorced more than 20 years ago, but Zhang Guolin often came back to take care of them when something happened.

　　He heard that there was a quarrel at home about Tianbei again, so he could not help but rushed into the bedroom, dragged Tianbei's hand out, shouting "I must send you away today", and the car in Tianbei's hand was also dumped. Got out.

　　The 9-year-old kid was startled. He desperately broke free and ran away. He knelt down to Zhang Guolin with a "plop". He kept crying and kowtow, shaking his body, "Please, I'm not going, I'm obedient. I will never get into trouble again, please don't send me away."

　　Tianbei has a stocky figure with a small round face. The baby teeth he is changing are uneven, and the two blobs of red on his cheeks are caused by the wind blowing out by playing crazy outside every day.

　　Usually, the neighbors who come to visit like to knock on Tianbei's swollen belly and ask, "What good food do you have?" Tianbei always smiles embarrassedly, and narrows his eyes into two lines.

However, at this time, a pair of eyes were already red from crying.

　　The little ones cry, the old ones cry too.

Zhang Guizhen lay on the edge of the kang and cried so hard that she could not stand upright.

She asked her ex-husband, "If you find someone else, take him away. No one wants him now. Do you throw him on the mountain or in the river?" Zhang Guolin left angrily.

　　Seeing the "wicked man" gone, Tianbei got up from the ground, got into Zhang Guizhen's arms, and wiped her tears with her little black hand.

A few minutes later, the room was quiet, and he picked up the toy car again and hid deep in the corner.

　　Over the years, similar quarrels have occurred many times.

Zhang's family and neighbors do not shy away from Tianbei's topic of "mother" and "send away".

At first he didn't understand, but he learned to say, "Where did mom go?" Later, he heard a lot. As soon as he heard others mention this, he raised his small round face and shouted, "I don't have a mother, I only have grandmother!"

　　During the reporter's interview, a neighbor and Zhang Guizhen chatted about where the child would go in the future.

Tianbei grinned and pretended to cry, "I won't leave, this is my home!" Zhang Guizhen pulled him to her side and patted his back lightly. Tianbei immediately put her expression away and clung to it grinningly. Zhang Guizhen acted like a baby.

　　Knowing his life experience too early makes him more knowledgeable than children of the same age.

Every time Zhang Guolin came back and saw the black car entering the yard, Tianbei would immediately tidy up the toys, sit back on the kang, and quietly wait for someone to enter the house.

He still doesn't know much about divorce. He only knows that Zhang Guizhen is called "grandma" and Zhang Guolin is called "grandpa".

Tianbei quietly told reporters that he was a little afraid of grandpa, because "grandpa is fierce", but grandma will protect him.

　　Zhang Guizhen's daughter and son-in-law are what he calls "mother and dad".

When Tianbei was first able to speak, Zhang Guizhen asked him to call his uncle and aunt. Later, Tianbei himself called his parents. After a long time, his daughter and son-in-law also acquiesced and agreed when they called.

　　Tianbei likes the evening, because "Mom and Dad" will come over for dinner and talk about the daily routine, so he can also say something.

During the long day, Zhang Guizhen was busy doing farm work. The children of the same age went to school. He could only run around in the village alone, playing with the two puppies at home, and talking to the cartoon villains on TV.

　　Once, Zhang Guizhen saw Tianbei group several plastic villains in a circle, namely "Dad, Mom, and Child", and drove a plastic car to pick them up for a trip.

She was stunned, not knowing what to say.

Sweet burden

　　Zhang Guizhen's family is in Sigou Village, Lushunkou District.

When inquiring about "the family that adopted children" in the village, everyone would point to a gray-pink two-story small building.

This is the old house where the Zhang family lived for decades.

　　On weekdays, the old and the young live here, and sometimes the daughter and son-in-law come to eat at night.

My son and daughter-in-law live in the town and come here relatively rarely.

The outside kitchen is slightly dim, and two puppies are running around on the ground. The house is cold in winter, and it is all heated by the stove. The walls are blackened by the fire.

The inner bedroom was cleaned and bright by Zhang Guizhen. The closet and table in the house were replaced by his son's renovation two years ago. The floor was covered with a layer of foam cushions for Tianbei to play barefoot on the floor.

　　There is a small vegetable plot next to the old house. Zhang Guizhen will grow potatoes, green onions and cabbage to save money.

　　According to Luo Jiajin, the Party branch secretary of Sigou Village, Zhang Guizhen’s family is home to more than 400 households in fair conditions. Zhang Guizhen has not paid social security and cannot go out to work when he is old. The village applied for resettlement security for land-lost farmers. Five years ago, there was a monthly subsidy of 300 yuan. In the past two years, it has risen to eight or nine hundred. On weekdays, it is still supported by children."

　　Seven years ago, it was in this old house that Zhang Guizhen ushered in Tianbei.

　　In September 2014, Su Ying, deputy director of the Shuishiying Police Station in Lushunkou District, received clues that Li Ting and Zhang Guizhen’s son Zhang Youming were suspected of taking drugs and arrested them.

At that time, the two were living together.

　　According to the China Judgment Document Network, on September 11, 2014, Zhang Youming was administratively detained for five days by the Lushunkou Branch of the Dalian Public Security Bureau for drug use. He was also detained twice for drug use since then.

Li Ting’s verdict did not show publicly, Su Ying remembered that “she was sentenced to two years for drug trafficking”.

　　Su Ying recalled that after being detained, Li Ting proposed that she had a child over 2 years old who had been born out of wedlock. He had been living in Zhang Guizhen’s house for several months. His biological father did not know his existence and was unable to cooperate in raising him. Continue to help take care of the children.

　　"Under normal circumstances, criminal detainees will entrust minor children to take care of others. The entrustment is reached by both parties, and the police station will not participate. Children who are not taken care of by the police station will be sent to the welfare home and other institutions in accordance with the procedures." Su Ying explained.

　　So, Su Ying contacted Zhang Guizhen to take the child to the police station, and in line with the principle that both parties voluntarily reached a commission, let Zhang Guizhen continue to take care of the child.

"I have no power and no reason to put my child in someone else's house for no reason."

　　Zhang Guizhen still remembers that Tianbei was “extremely thin and unstable in walking, and often stumbled.”

In addition, I get sick frequently, including enteritis and gastritis, and I often suffer from the pain in the middle of the night that I can’t sleep.

　　When seeing a child once, the doctor at the People’s Hospital of Lushunkou District told Zhang Guizhen that Tianbei may not have been vaccinated since he was born. “The physique is much worse than other children and it is difficult to raise.”

　　At that time, Zhang Guizhen's income was only 300 yuan a month for lost land subsidies, but Tianbei cost one to two hundred yuan to drink milk powder a month, and it also costs money to see a doctor. In addition, buying clothes and nutrition makes her unaffordable.

　　Zhang Guizhen’s children work odd jobs in the town and their income is unstable, but their daughter and daughter-in-law also often take care of Tianbei.

When it comes to the season change, last year's clothes are small, and they will remember to buy new clothes in advance.

But for this unrelated child, what they can do is limited to this.

　　In order to take good care of Tianbei, Zhang Guizhen had to talk to her ex-husband who was in business.

Although Zhang Guolin has a violent temper, he has never refused to pay for the child. When Zhang Guizhen opens his mouth, he will always give two or three thousand yuan, "He can't help it, such a small child can't throw it away."

　　Most of the money was spent on Tianbei. Zhang Guizhen was reluctant to buy clothes for herself. She always wore a blue floral quilted jacket to work in and out of the house. When the outside was dirty, she turned over and put it inside, so that a quilted jacket can last half a winter.

　　Although distressed, Tianbei also brought a lot of happiness to Zhang Guizhen.

　　Zhang Guizhen is divorced, and her sons and daughters are married. She lives in the old house alone. The days are so quiet that the sound of clocks can be heard.

The arrival of Tianbei made life suddenly lively. Two-year-old Tianbei walked up, her legs were still trembling, she was doing housework in the house, and Tianbei turned around at her feet and fell down. I didn't cry anymore, lying on the ground whispering, "Grandma, grandma help."

　　Tianbei was completely weaned when she was three years old. She was afraid that her child would lack calcium, so she bought shrimps and steamed them to feed Tianbei.

Tianbei would push the spoon to her mouth, motioning for her to eat too.

When she grew up, Tianbei learned to make trouble, and when she followed her to plant vegetables, she just dug a small hole, and Tianbei stepped on it. She pretended to hit someone, and the little troublemaker immediately laughed and avoided. .

　　Tianbei didn't have a big name when he first arrived at Zhang's house, only a nickname "Chuang Chuang".

From the day when the police station officially took the child back, Zhang Guizhen thought for a long time, and finally decided to name him "Tianbei", which means "god raised baby" and gave him his surname.

Children who can't go

　　In recent years, Zhang Guizhen obviously felt that she was old.

　　Although her hands and feet are still swift and she doesn't need children to wait on her, her body is not as good as before, and she can only walk slowly, because "the walk is fast, and the heart jumps suddenly."

Occasionally looking in the mirror, the wrinkles all over her face, the drooping eyelids, and the rough back of her hands reminded her that she was almost 70 years old.

　　Simultaneously with her aging, Tianbei jumped like a seedling full of rain.

At 9 years old, he has grown to 1.3 meters tall and runs fast. Zhang Guizhen, who suffers from heart disease and diabetes, increasingly feels that it is difficult to take good care of this child with her old lady.

　　Once, a child in the village asked Tianbei to pick up a ball on the roof. He was stuck on the roof and couldn't get off. He was clapped and teased.

In the end, it was Zhang Guizhen who coaxed the children to move the ladder, which made Tianbei climb down.

　　This incident made her feel uncomfortable for a long time, "If the child has no parents, anyone can bully." Some people persuaded her to send the child to the orphanage, but she couldn't bear it, just hoping that the mother of the child would come back and pick up Tianbei. Walk to raise.

　　In the fall of 2017, when Tianbei was 5 years old, Li Ting appeared after serving his sentence.

At that time, Zhang Guizhen was doing farm work in the field, and saw a thin figure approaching, and it took him a long time to recognize it.

　　Li Ting didn't mention her current situation or her plans, only said, "I want to live here for two days and see the kids."

　　Zhang Guizhen remembered that Tianbei, who had just met his mother, was timid. Just staring at him, Zhang Guizhen asked him to call "mother". Tianbei didn't call, but suddenly stretched out her little hand and pulled Li Ting.

After a while, Tianbei became acquainted with this "stranger woman", touched her hands, touched her clothes, and took her to see the two puppies raised at home.

　　"Don't look at Tianbei saying that he doesn't have a mother all day long. When Li Ting was there, he got up early and pestered Li Ting every day, and asked,'When will we go home, mother?'" Zhang Guizhen looked very sad.

　　But Li Ting didn't seem to figure out how to arrange it. She urged that some things must be handled first, and then come back to pick up the child after a while.

She wrote her phone number on the calendar and promised Tianbei, "Mom will pick you up in a while."

　　She left one early morning. When Tianbei woke up, the first sentence was "Where's mother?" Zhang Guizhen pointed to the phone number on the calendar, and Tianbei pouted and looked disappointed.

　　After waiting for two weeks, Tianbei asked every day, "When will my mother be back?" So they called Li Ting and got the promise of "Come in two days". Became an empty number.

　　Now that this matter is brought up, Zhang Guizhen is still very annoyed, "You just said you can't raise the child, let me put the child here, I also admit it, how can I lie to the child?"

　　Later, Zhang Guizhen found out about Li Ting's hometown, in a village in Chaoyang City, Liaoning Province. She packed a large bag of children's clothes and daily necessities, and set out to find Li Ting with Tianbei.

　　Inquiring all the way, around from left to right, one old and one young found Li Ting's house.

Knock on the door, only Li Ting's mother and a young girl were in the room. Upon asking, they found out that it was Li Ting's other daughter.

　　Looking at the ruthless environment like her own home, Zhang Guizhen was cruel and left Tianbei at her grandma's house.

Hearing that I could wait for my mother here, Tianbei did not cry, and Zhang Guizhen repeatedly urged "to listen to my grandma, not to be naughty".

Tianbei nodded, without asking when she would take him home.

This made Zhang Guizhen a little bit sour, and she turned and left.

　　Unexpectedly, two or three days later, my grandmother brought Tianbei back and cried to Zhang Guizhen that she could not afford it, "I still have a child here."

Zhang Guizhen looked at Tianbei's round smile, her heart softened, and she left the child again.

　　Since then, Li Ting and Li's family have never appeared again.

　　After more than three years, when Zhang Guizhen talked about this experience, Tianbei seemed completely impressed. He tilted his head and asked, "What did grandma say? Do I have a mother?"

Unable to get registered

　　After Tianbei was sent back to Zhang Guizhen again, the atmosphere in the Zhang family was a little nervous.

Sometimes my daughter-in-law would directly ask, "What on earth does this kid do?" Zhang Guizhen didn't know how to answer.

　　However, what troubles Zhang Guizhen most is not these family conflicts, but a very real problem-Tianbei's household registration.

　　Tianbei was not registered when he was sent, and Zhang Guizhen and the child were not relatives, so naturally they could not settle for him.

She said that she had contacted the Sigou Village Committee and the Shuishiying Police Station many times over the years, and all the responses she received were “because the child’s biological mother is not there and cannot settle down”.

　　However, Chang Yingzhi, director of the Propaganda Department of the Lushun Branch of the Dalian Public Security Bureau, said that before December 25, 2020, the Lushun Branch had never received a request from Zhang Guizhen for her child to settle down.

"I asked the person in the household registration hall. No one had reported this before, otherwise the staff would have intervened."

　　A deputy director surnamed Wang of the Shuishiying Police Station recalled that in October 2019, during the police's home visit, she met with Zhang Guolin. “At the time, he asked my child’s mother if it was impossible to settle down. I answered the question from the settlement policy, requiring the father or mother to bring his birth certificate and household registration book to settle down, and he never came to me again."

　　A reporter from the Beijing News consulted the "Opinions on Solving the Issue of Registered Household Registration for Persons without Hukou" issued by the State Council in 2016. The opinions show that people without hukou who do not comply with the family planning policy, and those who give birth outside of the policy or who give birth out of wedlock, are themselves Or the guardian can apply for permanent residence registration based on the "Medical Birth Certificate" and one parent's residence booklet, marriage certificate or illegitimate childbirth instructions, in accordance with the voluntary policy of setting up with the father and mother.

　　In the spring of 2018, it was time for the 6-year-old Tianbei to go to elementary school, and her household registration suddenly became an urgent matter.

The Sigou Elementary School said, "If you don't have a hukou, you can't go to school."

At that time, Luo Jiajin, the director of social security in Sigou Village, also helped to negotiate with the school, but to no avail, "No way, you can't go to school without a permanent residence."

　　Regarding the argument that children without a hukou cannot go to school, lawyer Wang Yingyu said that children without hukou also have the right to receive compulsory education.

The "Compulsory Education Law" stipulates that all school-age children with the nationality of the People's Republic of China...have the right to receive compulsory education on an equal basis in accordance with the law and perform their obligation to receive compulsory education.

　　"However, because you need to apply for school registration in elementary school, you cannot apply for school registration without a household registration. Therefore, if you do not have a household registration, you can ask the public security agency to issue a certificate that the household registration is in process." Wang Yingyu said.

　　Whether they have ever contacted a public security agency, both sides argued differently, but it is a fact that Tianbei never had a permanent residence.

This also became the deadlock of his inability to go to school.

There are school buses passing by in the village every day. Neighbors remember that as soon as six o'clock in the morning, Tianbei will run to the roadside on time and watch the school bus pass by. He said, "I want to send the children to school"; at four o'clock in the afternoon, he He stayed by the road early again, waiting for the school bus to return.

　　Zhang Guizhen only has the level of third-grade education in elementary school. She usually doesn't have pen and paper at home. She can only teach Tianbei a few simple words on the glass. He hasn't learned to write his name until today.

　　The lack of hukou also affected Tianbei's adoption.

One month after Tianbei was sent back by his grandmother, Zhang Guolinto's friend contacted a family in downtown Dalian. It was a 50-year-old couple with good family conditions and no children.

This is the best place for Tianbei that Zhang Guolin can think of.

　　However, according to Article 5 of the Adoption Law of the People's Republic of China, only guardians of orphans, social welfare institutions, and biological parents who have special difficulties and are unable to raise their children can be adopted as adopters.

　　Because Tianbei's biological mother was still alive, but did not appear again, she could not complete the adoption procedures. Four months after she was sent to that family, Tianbei went around and was sent back to Zhang Guizhen.

Waiting for mother day

　　Things turned around at the end of last year.

On December 18, 2020, Zhang Guolin wrote the "Report Requesting the Implementation of Zhang Tianbei's Household Registration and Support" to the Dalian Municipal Government, and passed it to the Dalian Municipal People's Government and the Lushunkou District People's Government through letters and visits. He also asked friends to contact the media.

On January 13 this year, a media reported the incident with the title "A 60-year-old mother-in-law kindly "adopted" the son of a criminal detainee, and the child was still a "black household" unable to go to school" at the age of 8.

　　These efforts have worked.

On January 19, Chang Yingzhi, director of the Propaganda Department of the Lushun Branch of the Dalian Public Security Bureau, told the Beijing News reporter that on December 25, 2020, the Lushun Branch received Zhang Guolin’s request for the child to settle down for the first time, and then they found Zhang Youming and Zhang Youming. Zhang Guolin understood the situation and obtained Zhang Tianbei's birth medical certificate from the Second People's Hospital of Lushunkou District.

　　"At that time, Li Ting gave birth to a child and was hurriedly discharged without obtaining a birth medical certificate." Chang Yingzhi said, on January 4 this year, they contacted Li Ting. "She promised to complete the relevant procedures after the Spring Festival and apply for the child's residence registration. As for who the child will go with in the future, both parties need to negotiate again."

　　On January 8th, Deputy Director Wang of the Naishi Camp Police Station called Zhang Guolin and told him Li Ting’s statement and the birth information obtained from the hospital, “Uncle, remember a little bit, Tianbei will have a birthday in the future. It was September 11, 2012."

　　Seeing that Tianbei might really be leaving this time, Zhang Guizhen fell into conflict.

On the one hand, she told herself, “Anyway, it’s better to follow your mother than to let others adopt it.” On the other hand, she is also worried about whether Li Ting can take good care of Tianbei.

　　"I came home for the first time after being released from prison. I didn't buy anything for Tianbei, even if I bought some snacks to make the child happy?" "I heard that she has two daughters. Can she still care for Tianbei?"

　　Zhang Guizhen remembered that when Tianbei went to see the doctor when he changed his teeth, the dentist said, “This child didn’t eat milk well at first glance. The teeth didn’t grab anything, and they all fell in.” She felt that even before going to prison. Li Ting has never petted this child.

　　She always thinks of her childhood. When her mother died when she was 9 years old, she followed her father to practice juggling. There was no one to take care of and grew up like weeds.

Later, her father continued. She had to work in the fields, herd sheep, and wait for her stepmother. She failed to finish primary school.

　　She was reluctant to let her children suffer this.

When she divorced Zhang Guolin more than 20 years ago, her children were still young.

At that time, relatives persuaded her to keep her child in the village and go out to work and earn money. Maybe she could meet a suitable person to remarry.

But she couldn't let go of the child, she always stayed in the village, raised the child, and never got married.

　　When she saw Tianbei, she felt that the child was as pitiful as she was when she was a child, so she agreed to help take care of it.

Guarding two generations of children, 40 years have passed in a blink of an eye.

　　The countdown to parting finally started.

One morning, Zhang Guizhen took advantage of Tianbei to go out to play, secretly packed his clothes and toys, and packed them for a while, feeling distressed, and putting them back in place.

The neighbor persuaded her that the mother finally found the child, and she had to send the child back anyway, "can't be softened anymore."

　　Realizing that he might really be sent away this time, Tianbei's reaction was also fierce.

When Zhang Guizhen muttered "Listen to my mother in the future, don't be naughty", Tianbei suddenly shouted, "Do you know how I feel?" She also beat her head with her hand.

Zhang Guizhen was stunned, and hurriedly pulled the child into her arms to comfort him, but never dared to say the words "don't leave".

　　She suddenly remembered that when Tianbei was 5 years old, the two of them went to the town to go to the market, and they accidentally separated. She went crazy looking for a child on the street, but finally did not find it.

　　She hurried home and wanted to call her sons and daughters to help find her. Unexpectedly, when she entered the house, she saw Tianbei sitting on the sofa with her feet crossed.

Tianbei said, "Grandma, what are you worried about? I know the way home, so I will come back by myself."

　　Beijing News reporter Ma Yanjun