Recently, the setting of the "Divorce Cooling-off Period" in the Civil Code has aroused widespread concern in the society, and the number of related readings on Weibo has reached 1.29 billion.

　　Supporters believe that the "divorce cooling-off period" will help reduce the divorce rate and maintain social stability, and prevent "sloppy willfulness brought about by excessive freedom." But opponents pointed out that the "divorce cooling-off period" restricts freedom of marriage, and women who are usually in a weak position in marital relationships may also experience new institutional inequalities.

　　Some people describe the post-90s as "What do you like more expensive? Buy; work unsatisfactory? Resign; feeling unhappy? Points". Is impulse really a label on the post-90s? What do they think of the introduction of the "divorce cooling-off period"?

Give young couple some time to think

　　In recent years, the number of divorces in my country has increased year by year, and “impulsive divorce” has occupied a large proportion, which is also regarded as the background of the “divorce cooling-off period”.

　　Many government departments in Yongsheng County, Lijiang City, Yunnan Province are working in the same office lobby. The office of Li Fang, a grassroots cadre, is next to the Civil Affairs Office. Every day she can see the sweet couples who have received the certificate, and also see the silent divorced couples. After working for 3 years, she observed, "Not many people have divorced before, and there have been many divorced people in the last year." What impressed her most was a young couple after 95, who divorced within a month of marriage.

　　Regarding the "cooling-off period of divorce", Li Fang deeply agrees, not only because she often contacts divorced couples in her work, she also almost "impulsively divorced" herself.

　　A few days ago, Li Fang’s husband quarreled because she received a greeting from a man on WeChat. Li Fang made a divorce in anger and took her husband to the Civil Affairs Bureau. The two shoved to the door of the office lobby, her husband cried, and Li Fang also cried. After crying, they decided to reflect, and agreed not to make a divorce because of a trivial matter.

　　"We are friends for more than 10 years, and it is not easy to come together." Li Fang and her husband are grassroots cadres, and they work in different townships. In Li Fang's view, the "divorce cooling-off period" is not to limit the freedom of divorce, but to give young couples more time to think and avoid unnecessary harm to themselves and their families.

　　Zhang Weijuan, who has just entered the marriage life, expressed support for setting a "divorce cooling-off period." On May 20 this year, Zhang Weijuan received the certificate in the "Official Proclamation" in the circle of friends. After more than two years of getting along, Zhang Weijuan is determined to stay in Beijing with his boyfriend and fight together. She thinks that the two often break up when they fall in love, but every time they say that they break up, they don't really want to separate, and they don't want to miss each other because of impulse.

Divorce is not a temporary intention

　　Although experts emphasize that the "divorce cooling-off period" does not apply to domestic violence and other "litigation divorce" situations. However, some people worry that after the establishment of the "divorce cooling-off period", any one of the parties' repentance within the prescribed period will invalidate the divorce registration. When one party insists on divorce and the other party repents, the parties have to embark on the difficult "litigation divorce" road, and divorce will become more difficult.

　　Ye Lanlin, who works in the prosecutor's office, has been exposed to some divorce cases. In her view, "the disadvantaged group has been difficult to divorce." Setting the threshold for the "divorce cooling-off period" is tantamount to increasing the difficulty of the divorce of the vulnerable group.

　　Ye Lanlin feels that most people's divorce is not a temporary intention, "There is no need to calm down." After all, the situation of "flash marriage and divorce" belongs to the minority, and the law should not use the situation of the minority to "one size fits all" for the majority.

　　Zhou Ping, who has experienced "flash marriage and divorce" after 90, believes that instead of setting a "divorce cooling-off period", it is better to set a "marriage cooling-off period". It is easy to have a hot mind during a love affair. Will not end rashly."

　　At the age of 23, parents urged Zhou Ping to get married, and Zhou Ping also felt that it was time to get married. Under the introduction of relatives, she met Wang Ming, who is also from Wulantuoke Town, Bayannur City, Inner Mongolia, and they got a marriage certificate in less than 3 months.

　　Later, because of work reasons, Wang Ming was transferred to Nanjing. Due to long-term off-site, the already unreliable marriage relationship broke down. Zhou Ping had repeatedly proposed to Wang Ming for divorce. Because of the relationship between the two families, Wang Ming did not agree at first, but ultimately failed to insist on Zhou Ping’s insistence. The two still went through the divorce procedure.

　　Today, Zhou Ping lives with her children alone and talks about this short marriage. She doesn't regret divorce, but regrets getting married. She thinks she "shouldn't get married for marriage".

　　Qiao Yi, who also got married less than half a year ago, is a junior high school teacher, and her husband Cheng Wei is a physical education teacher in the same school. Because Cheng Wei is 7 years older than Qiao Yi, the two are in love on the premise of marriage. After getting along, Qiao Yi felt that Cheng Wei was reliable and masculine, her "ideal type", and she agreed to propose.

　　Qiao Yi admits that he sometimes gets sullen and comes up with the idea of ​​divorce, but fortunately Cheng Wei always takes the initiative, shows weakness, and quarrels come and go quickly. Qiao Yi believes that young people are now married because of love, but it is easy to quarrel with impulse. "Divorce cooling-off period" can provide a good buffer for "good face" and "personality" after 90s.

　　(Li Fang, Zhou Ping and Wang Ming are pseudonyms in the text at the request of the interviewee)

　　China Youth Daily · China Youth Network trainee reporter Shi Jia Source: China Youth Daily