- The measures announced by the government this weekend to try to halt the spread of the coronavirus jeopardize any dating strategy.
- During confinement, is it useful to connect to dating sites?
- Oh yes, for some. Explanations.
The hour is serious for singles. The measures announced by the government this weekend to try to stem the spread of the coronavirus in the country jeopardize any strategy of meeting. The authorities have ordered the French to stay at home, closing day care centers, schools and universities, bars and restaurants and all non-essential shops on Monday. Emmanuel Macron, who chaired a working lunch in the form of a "defense council", will address the French this Monday at 8 pm and could announce new containment measures.
How to meet love if all the restaurants, bars, cinemas and exhibitions are closed? Do dating apps still have a purpose? We conducted our survey of single, regular consumers (daily, even) from Grindr, Tinder, Ok Cupid, and others ... Total confinement - which is being studied - does not necessarily mean a love and sexual desert.
"Many emotions go through the phone"
If Tinder and Grindr reminded their users of the WHO recommendations in an official communication, they did not transmit any figures on the current behavior of their users. A priori, candidates for love continue to match , but the meetings will soon have no reason to be. And it has already been several days since many users have kicked in touch with the idea of meeting IRL. Ok, but confined does not mean disconnected and the measures put in place by the French government could even allow for more intimate ties.
"You have a more empathetic approach to each other when you write," says Geoffrey, who uses Grindr, Tinder and Hornet daily. That leaves time for discussion, which is not necessarily the case when you have the opportunity to meet. ” Gaspard, a 33-year-old Parisian, also has accounts on several applications: “Grindr is more for sex and Tinder, among gays, has a more serious side, unlike straight guys. In a period of confinement, I will rather use Tinder, match guys, and switch conversations on WhatsApp to get to know them and maybe meet them when the crisis is over. ”
Louisa, a 39-year-old Parisian who has recently returned to the singles market, agrees. She intends to take advantage of the dating apps to have exchanges by phone. "A lot of emotions go through the phone," she explains. And that allows you to skim ”. There are many men who prefer to send text messages rather than chatting orally. No mercy for those, swipe left direction trash.
Sexcam or porn?
"I'm not going to do a video [video meeting]," she continues, "we are not comfortable when we are facing a camera, we do not know where to look. He will only have to be satisfied with photos ”. Unlike her, Gaspard has no embarrassment in front of the camera. He even plans to have somewhat special sexual experiences via webcam. "I already do hypnosis sessions on Skype and in real life," he says. I hypnotize my partner, and he falls into a sexual trance, he has the impression of living crazy things. I will keep up with skype and porn. "
In a blog post, Pornhub explains that traffic on its site increases as the coronavirus spreads around the world. "But perhaps more interestingly, we found that people choose to visit Pornhub at different times," said the post last Thursday.
"An exciting end of the world atmosphere"
"It's hot when you're used to meeting guys often imagine spending several weeks cloistered without sexual intercourse," worries Gaspard. For her part, Louisa relies instead on her “ sex friends ”, three or four in number, to offset the “sexual dearth” of the coming weeks. "I will not see them because they are confined, for some with their partner ... With some of them, we are on sextos, small photos, videos like" Benjamin Griveaux ", smiles the young woman. There is an end-of-the-world vibe that is almost exciting. We tell ourselves that if it is found we will die ”.
Confinement could force more sexual creativity and take more time to chat. "It is a good thing finally this confinement", concludes Geoffrey with enthusiasm. It will just take a few weeks for human contact. Patience.
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