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One of the lessons of the primary stage perhaps forgotten, which is the study of acids and alkalis and how to know through a simple and direct experience, where the paper turns from blue to red in the acid environment, and the red paper turns to blue in the alkaline environment. Some people reminded me of that experience, and perhaps the experience reminded me of some people, and myself in the past, that simple experience illustrates the meaning of the immediate reaction, strong and direct, the color of the paper has changed completely and immediately change the environment, The paper is probably without knowing.

When we are criticized or someone tells us what they think about a case, and this opinion is contrary to our conviction, we immediately respond to think without thinking, and try to defend ourselves or our conviction, and in married life when one of the spouses behave in some way or say a word is not in place, he hurries The other party responds and even responds, sometimes fierce stubbornness without thinking, all falls under the item of immediate reaction free of thought and thinking, and includes all the emotional decisions we make, they are the decisions of an emotional moment, in which the voice of reason is absent, and emotions dominate us And, the reaction spree that always doesn't come okay, wii Her love of remorse and bite of fingers, perhaps for years, this does not prevent that some things need a direct and rapid reaction, such as looting to support someone in need of us, or to help a person and not stand by, and there are of course reactions must be immediate and without thinking, if you found a human being You are in danger of what you will come to the rescue even if it cost you your life, and this feature is instinctive especially for parents.

The best of the "reaction" is the "response", for example if you received a message that does not satisfy you, and you want to respond immediately and refute what came with the message, it is better not to do so when you are in an outburst of anger and emotion, but tell and think about it, and if you must write the reply but no Send it, leave it for the next day, and read it again, most likely you will edit it and may not send it at all. Response means thinking objectively away from emotions and emotions and studying the subject from all sides.If it is related to making a decision, the response means that you have studied all the consequences that will result from your decision.You may need to consult with those who trust their opinion.How many houses have been ruined by an ill-considered reaction . Let us imitate the words of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him: «not severe by speed, but severe, who owns himself when anger».

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