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Important stage of sexual life, the first time is often at the heart of questions in young people, worried about having their first sexual relationship too late, to find the wrong person, or not to be up to the task. At the microphone of Nathalie Gomez, in Sans Rendez-vous , the sexologist Catherine Blanc assures that in terms of sexuality: "the important thing is not to have arrived, but to walk".
The question of Marion, 25 years old
"I'm 25 years old and I have not made love yet, I know that the first time is a very important moment, so I prefer to wait for the ideal moment with the ideal man." My little sister, 19, who is no longer a virgin, tells me that I am afraid, she is right, but I am especially afraid that it will not be perfect, that I will not be up to it Do you think that I am making a mistake? "
Catherine Blanc's answer
Prince Charming is a mixture of all our fantasies and desires, themselves quite versatile. He is never charming enough, according to the mood of ours. Let's meet the real thing!
Many women are still virgins at age 25, and sometimes even later. There is no problem, only that wanting this first time to be perfect, the more time passes the idea of perfection haunts his women. They grow, mature, gain social maturity, and all of a sudden, it is a gap between a beginner and a woman who is more accomplished on other subjects.
"Maybe her senior posture is putting pressure on her?"
A first time is only a first time. It's a startup. If this first time was perfect, we would never come back. It is precisely because we have to be able to progress that we go back to the saddle, try again, discover new things. The important thing is not to have arrived, but to walk.
Regarding Marion, maybe her older posture is putting pressure on her. On the occasion of the subject of sexuality, the pressure on the eldest, who must be great, accomplished when the youngest can be imperfect, is replayed on the way. He also plays the fact that, as an elder, she has often had to open the doors, which is frightening, and on a subject as intimate as this one, she takes a step aside.
Marion must appease her fear of acting out
Men are less in search of the ideal woman for this first report. They set out to demonstrate their ability, while women will have to welcome them inside, so they do not want anyone in them. For women, there is the idea of the borrowing of another in itself, in a place that they themselves do not visit.
I will advise Marion to appease the idea of her fear of acting out, and to tell herself that she is going on an adventure for herself and she will meet the right companion ".