Traditionally, the most desired sexual practice (and performed) has been intercourse, a 'king imposed' by a culture centered on genitality (especially the masculine one). For too long, it seemed to have become "the only thing", the main objective, and its realization had been demanded - both men and women - as if sex were that and the rest, what 'adorns' it.

Well, Bijoux Indiscrets, the well-known brand of erotic cosmetics, has carried out the only study on "real sex", as they have called it, against "the idealized and socially imposed". We will see the complete data in the first quarter of 2020 but, today, we can anticipate that, of a sample of more than 2,000 people, only 6.59% said they prefer penetration compared to 66.86 who enjoy more with masturbation or oral sex. 26.54%, meanwhile, choose kisses and caresses.

"We are looking for a change in behavior and a change in our way of thinking," explains Elsa Viegas, co-founder of the brand. Fiction, culture and poor sex education have taught us that preliminaries are what we carry out 'to warm up '. "Our proposal is the ' slow sex ': experiment and know without haste sex to live a better sex,' 'says the designer.

PRELIMINARY

And is that sex is not a race to reach the podium , but a pleasant walk, without goals or obligations. And, when we think preliminary are necessary, we have not understood the game well.

Because kisses, caresses, touches and licks have been misnamed that way, but nothing is prior to sex, because everything is sex. Of course, we can use it in many different ways. Even seduction is sex itself, with that game of looks that is so active, although there is not a touch in between. Like fantasies. Everything that generates erotic pleasure is part of our sexual repertoire, whether or not the most practiced by the rest of humanity.

And, although it has cost, it seems that we are assimilating that there is no need to get anywhere, there is no goal to be achieved except pleasure, desired and consented . And if pleasure is obtained with intercourse, go ahead, but if you don't feel like it, you can enjoy as much or more with infinite practices, even without reaching orgasm.

Sexuality is diverse and has shifted to coitocentrism, so established in our culture and sexuality.

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