«Not your brother, not even memory» ..

Dostoevsky to his wife on his deathbed.

Disclaimer: This article is annoying and emotionally confused so do not read it if you can not tolerate accepting some scientific facts that do not fit your convictions.

"You ask me what love is?" Says poet Nizar Qabbani. Love, to be satisfied with you and I do not just stop you ». What is the most wonderful thing that our poet said about love, even if this is always the case, as Goethe says, "happier than the shadow of heaven?" But back to reality, this question comes to mind: Why does a person betray someone who loves?

Love on the biological side is the secretion of large amounts of dopamine, which in turn stimulates the centers of pleasure in the mind, and by coincidence it is the same area that is active also when taking cocaine drug! But how does emotional betrayal occur on the biological side?

Human behaviorist Helen Fisher has spent 30 years studying the mind of man, and recently concluded that the human mind holds three systems within it when one enters into any emotional relationship, namely "physical desire, romantic love, deep attachment", but that does not mean that it works In a parallel line by directing this tremendous emotional energy to only one person! A person is able to be attracted to someone sexually with a second being shared by romantic love and a third related to him for a long time, all with sincere feelings! As if your mind holds three different minds inside it with different agendas. As Fischer summed up this paradoxical situation during her speech at the famous Ted conference: "In short we can love more than one person at a time. In fact, you can share deep feelings of emotional attachment with someone while You share deep feelings of romantic love with someone else, as if there is a committee meeting going on in your brain. "

As the genetic composition of man may be the reason for betraying one's life partner; scientific studies have shown that DRD4

(The gene responsible for the production of love-related dopamine) is the gene responsible for treason as well!

But all of this depends on the form of «allele», which means in genetics: a copy or alternative form of the gene or chromosomal site, the study found that people who carry a long allele they need a double effort to produce the hormone dopamine, thus doubling the possibility of treason, compared People with short alleles.

The latest statistics show that 91% of the American people consider emotional betrayal to be a fact, but more than 30% admit that at some point in their lives they have betrayed their husbands or wives!

We can also attribute the cause of treachery from a psychological point of view to the fact that emotional attachment is an imaginary cage that places yourself inside it of your own free will. Man is inherently rebellious, and treason is a kind of emancipation for him, but that does not mean that all human beings are, Is able to direct his emotions to one person only, to become that person is his world and the center of his life, do not forget Dostoevsky loyal lover and what he said to his wife on the verge of death in the first article.

Dear readers, what do you think of that?

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