Be careful! In your workplace bullying

Bullying has never been confined to schools or young people, but also adults, especially in the workplace. Although bullying in the workplace can not be defined in a clear and exclusive definition, it is mainly the persistent attempts of bullying to harass or control his colleague or colleagues and to cause him to feel uneasy, angry, sad or frightened, as well as to undermine his self-confidence.

The phenomenon of bullying is growing steadily. According to a study conducted by the American Bullying Association in 2017, nearly 60 percent of employees surveyed are bullying in the workplace, while the previous study conducted by the same institution in 2014 reached Said that 27 percent of respondents had experienced this experience or had previously been exposed to it. It also proved that men are more prone to bullying than women, while women tend to bully more against each other than to bully men.

In general, the bully is not different from the small bully who suffers from psychological problems often associated with his family environment, which he breathed through the harassment of the weakest episodes in his classroom or in his life. As such, one of them is harassed by his co-worker, who is not necessarily inferior to rank and may even be in equal positions, but the bully desires to show his victim's weakness and resentment and discomfort, which makes him triumphant, superior, and dominant.

The victim of bullying usually fails to find concrete evidence of bullying. The victim of this behavior is also in a position to fail to set a name for what he is exposed to, especially if he is at the beginning of his career and is not yet familiar with the work environment and the nature of the relations between the employees. In the meantime, his self-esteem is shaken and productivity diminishes, as most of his thinking becomes obsessed with his poisoned atmosphere rather than focusing on his tasks. It can lead to depression and frequent sick leave, and may even consider resigning to escape the hell of this psychological war.

What makes matters worse is that the bully may disguise himself in a friend's dress and sometimes utter words that appear to be friendly. They may be in the form of advice or a note that is not meant to hurt, but merely to attract the parties to the conversation, but may be accompanied by a broad smile, It is intended to cause the other party to sit down and make it think nonstop and try to understand the message behind it and make doubt creep into his heart. "Do you really want this to be worse?" "But he is my friend at work and I rely on him and ask for his help." "Do you see him trying to get me a message?" The victim of bullying does not stop asking questions and trying to reach the truth behind the actions and words of the bully.

It is likely that the reason for the behavior of bullying is the feeling of bullying, lack or jealousy or failure in many aspects of his life, making him thirsty for a sense of power by informing others of weakness and humiliation and defeat. What is worse is that the bully does not take advantage of work-related details only in the service of his goals, but rather revels in discovering the secrets of the personal life of his victim so that his words and observations are more painful and painful and the impact of his bullying is deeper.

However, the person who thinks himself victim in this story must review his position because he has a role in what happens to him that it is permissible for the venerable area, whether it is ignorance or ignorance, to broadcast the latter poison in his life and make him controlling the situation, which refers to The most important question: How do we live with bullying? The easy and simple answer is to give up our naiveté and become more aware of the way bullying attempts to affect us negatively.

In the beginning, it is necessary to draw limits to your relationship with the bully and to see things from a different perspective and most importantly to separate emotions from the position that you find yourself in because what you get during exposure to bullying and after it affects your judgment so you end up making the bully feel and lose you think rationally in what Must be done to end the bullying. In other words, you have to get out of the picture and look at it from the outside without feelings or prejudices in order to understand the truth and know how to act given the details that were absent when you were in the midst of exposure to bullying.

For example, if the bully tries to underestimate your taste in clothes, as if indicating that color coordination is not good, do not be silent because you declare defeat, do not act and show him that his words bothered you. Quite the opposite, he armed with a smile and asked him for advice on the matter and waited for him to answer a question he was not expecting. The examples of how to deal with bullying are innumerable and the key remains to maintain coolness and remember that those who try to hurt you do so because your presence eliminates their presence.